The Kazdin Method
Our Review
Information summarized from “The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child” by Alan E. Kazdin, Ph.D
This book is packed with valuable information to add to your parenting toolbox. The Kazdin method provides us with a method for changing your child’s behavior based on what’s currently known about scientific studies. Here, there are no unsupported opinions about children or childhood.
The Seven Myths of Effective Parenting
Kazdin spends time clearing up “Seven Myths of Effective Parenting.” One of these myths stands out more than others—that punishment will change bad behavior. Kazdin tells us punishment has a far lower success rate than positive reinforcement and that its effects are more temporary. Kazdin explains that punishment it’s short-lasting because we are not teaching our children what we want them to do or what they should do, and instead focusing on what they are doing wrong.
However, Kazdin does pay some special attention to punishment in a chapter. His method focuses on the behaviors we want from our kids instead of those we do not want. He expresses the importance of noticing when our kids exhibit good behaviors—the things we want—and praising them for it. He reminds us that as humans, we tend to focus more on the negatives, so he suggests trying to be more aware of this so that we, as parents, can change our behaviors.
Effective Punishment According to Kazdin
The two types of punishment that Kazdin says are effective when used correctly are time outs and the taking away of a privilege. Still, these punishments are only useful when used as an addition to a positive reinforcement system.
The Kazdin Method relies heavily on positive reinforcement, shaping behavior, and structure/routines. It uses a system of points with the use of a chart. Earning points by doing good behaviors and by using those points for rewards.
Kazdin gives helpful and realistic examples of what to say to children and how to handle different parenting situations. He shares his six keys to success with the points program but explains that praise in the correct way is the most important.
The book covers a wide range of ages up into the preadolescent years (up to age 12). It touches on adjusting parental expectations for our children and focusing on what they can accomplish instead. It tackles everything from how to deal with bad attitudes and language to family values and compromise. Kazdin even covers the effects of parental stress on our behavior and our children’s behavior and what you can do about it.
Although the title is “The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child,” this book is for all parents wanting to learn better ways to parent their children.